3 Ingredients to a Happy Marriage

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Have you ever wondered why some marriages last decades while others barely go two years? Why do some couples thrive and grow together while others crash and burn?

The secret? There are three secrets, actually; three ingredients to a happy and successful marriage. Without all three of these, many couples will struggle to remain connected and committed.

1st Ingredient to a Happy Marriage: Communication

Communication is to a marriage what gasoline is to an automobile: without it, you’re not going anywhere. And the better the communication, the longer the “motor” will last.

The words we choose to connect with others are incredibly important. Use the right ones and you generate feelings of love, safety, and security. Use the wrong ones and your partner is apt to feel anger and resentment.

With Communication, Your Tone and Delivery Matter

It is often said that HOW you say something is as important as WHAT you say, and in many ways, this is true. When you ask your spouse a question, is their answer thoughtful or dismissive? Do they say, “Yes, that sounds like a great plan,” or “Whatever?” Both are affirmative, but only the first sentence is positive and respectful.

As Experienced Marriage Counselors, We’ve Seen This in Action

But perhaps the most important factor of good communication is listening. Many marriages have been improved when one or more people learn how to be good listeners.

How exactly do you become a good listener? Two ways: Start caring more about your partner. When you care for someone, you are actually interested in what they have to say. Second, when they are speaking, don’t think about other things. Don’t think about your day or what you’d like to have for dinner. Try not to even think about how you’d like to respond to what your partner is saying, simply LISTEN to them. Give them your full attention.

The better listeners and communicators you both are, the better partners you can be to each other.

2nd Ingredient to a Happy Marriage: Know Yourself and Your Partner

The sad fact is, most people spend more time trying to understand how their smartphone or tablet works than how their own personality – or that of their partner -works. We’re all individuals with unique quirks and behaviors. The more we understand about ourselves and our spouse, the less conflict we’ll experience.

3rd Ingredient to a Happy Marriage: Put Each Other First

Happy and successful marriages are the ones where each person is putting their partner’s needs first. When both are doing this, all needs are being met. Problems arise when only one individual meets their partner’s needs. When this happens, one person is happy, the other is left out in the cold.

If, after reading this, you have become aware that your marriage is missing some of these critical ingredients, don’t be afraid to seek help from a therapist. Sometimes an impartial third party can help both individuals get their priorities straight.

Are you or a loved one interested in exploring treatment? If so, please contact me today. I would be happy to speak with you about how I may be able to help.

Begin Marriage Counseling in Decatur, GA

Your marriage deserves to flourish as you grow with your partner. Marriage counseling can help you work these ingredients into your relationship, and identify even more areas for growth. My Decatur, GA-based counseling practice has caring marriage counselors that are happy to help. To start your journey into marriage counseling, follow these simple steps:

  1. Request an appointment.
  2. Get to know your new caring marriage counselor.
  3. Start nurturing your marriage!

Other Related Counseling Services

Marriage counseling isn’t the only service offered at our Atlanta, GA-based counseling practice. Our team also offers Christian counseling, individual therapy, relationship counseling for one, discernment counseling, and premarital counseling. In addition, we are also happy to offer affair recovery and online support groups for depression and anxiety. We understand making in-person appointments can be hard, which is why we are happy to also offer online therapy in Georgia. For more information, feel free to visit our blog or our FAQ!

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