As an Atlanta marriage counselor, I’ve used my marriage counseling experience to help couples all over the metro area rekindle their love and strengthen their marriage. As couples experience busy holiday schedules, they begin to experience some disconnect. It’s normal. In fact, it happens to many couples when they’re overwhelmed, stressed, and tired. But, if this disconnect is left unaddressed it can cause harm in a relationship.
I want to prevent this from happening in your relationship or your marriage. That’s why I am going to share 5 easy ways you can reconnect with your spouse. Each of these should only take mere minutes to put into practice. I hope they will help you and your partner begin 2022 feeling more connected than ever!
Why Couples Grow Apart
Truth be told, most go through periods where one or both feel disconnected from their spouse. It usually happens when one or both people are busy and experiencing distress. This may be in the form of anxiety, depression, or the effects of trauma.
When this happens they may:
- Be less affectionate
- Experience less intimacy
- Be more irritable with each other
- And get in more arguments
The problem with these times of disconnect is that they can soon turn into a much larger problem. When this happens one or both partners start to resent each other. Each may draw conclusions that are not productive. For example, one partner may wonder why their spouse is pushing them away? Or, wonder if they’re having an affair? Or, question their love and commitment to the relationship. When thoughts and worries such as those are present, it’s easy for things to snowball out of control. That’s when the big fights happen, and when partners may start to seek out individual counseling or marriage counseling.
To keep this from occurring, I encourage you to be proactive. Connect with your spouse on a day-to-day basis. Do this many times a day beginning in the morning and ending when you go to bed at night.
Tip #1: Begin the Day By Greeting Your Spouse
Your alarm goes off. You grumble and get out of bed to begin your morning routine… but wait! Did you greet your spouse and tell them good morning?
If the answer is no, then I encourage you to take 30 seconds. Kiss them and tell them good morning.
Tip #2: Tell Your Partner or Spouse Goodbye Before You Leave for the Day
Before you leave tell your partner goodbye before you leave the house for the day. Remind them that you love them and will miss them as you go about your day.
Tip #3: Check-In Mid Day
How many times have you been very busy during the day and realized, I haven’t talked to my spouse at all today?
Again, this is common and very understandable. But, it’s a nice reminder of your commitment. Take 30 seconds and send a quick text or email to your partner to check in. Ask them how they’re doing and discuss plans for the rest of the day.
Tip #4: Find (at least) One Thing to Compliment Your Spouse on Every Day
Have you become complacent and stopped telling your spouse how great they are? You may assume they already know. This is an easy assumption to make. But, it leaves your spouse wondering if you appreciate them anymore.
Instead, look for opportunities to compliment them in your day-to-day routines. It may be on a new dress they’re wearing, or it may be on a dish they made at dinner. Find something that catches your attention and give them some kudos. They’ll feel flattered and appreciated.
Tip #5: Go On Dates
It’s super easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of a relationship. Or, become super comfortable and forget to date your spouse. You may joke and say things like, “I don’t have to date them, we’re married. I’ve already got them.” But let’s be real, that’s not the best attitude to have.
Instead, try to make date nights a weekly or at least a monthly occurrence. This allows you time to give your spouse your undivided attention. If you have younger kids arrange for a sitter or make plans for at-home date nights when they go to sleep.
What happens if this is not enough?
You may be in a dark place in your marriage. You feel unloved and hurt. In fact, you may find yourself arguing a lot. If this is the case, these rituals of connection may not be enough to repair the hurt you feel.
When this happens, you need marriage counseling or couples therapy. I know that might not be what you want to hear, but it’s important if you want to save your relationship. A couples therapist can help you work through the issues you’re experiencing. They can equip you with tools to help you better manage future distress.Begin Couples Therapy or Marriage Counseling in Decatur, GA
You don’t have to lose the fire in your relationship. Support is available to help you feel more connected with your significant other. As a marriage counselor in Decatur, GA, I would be happy to help! I offer support from my Decatur, GA-based counseling practice. To start your counseling journey, please follow these simple steps:
- Fill out an appointment request.
- Get to know your caring therapist.
- Start improving your relationship!
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