As A Marriage Therapist I often work with couples on finding and understanding their reactive or emotional cycle. This cycle is often the issue when it comes to perpetual arguments. One of the challenges faced in finding the cycle is dealing with husbands who often dismiss or ignore their emotions. As A Man I understand how we often feel that...[ read more ]
As many of us know, we are still in the midst of a worldwide pandemic. The COVIID 19 virus has killed over 3 million people worldwide and over 500,000 within the United States. The good news is that now people are being vaccinated to protect themselves against COVID. However, one challenge is that there can be disagreements within the same...[ read more ]
Many times, when I am counseling people, I often hear the statements like the following. “He makes me so mad.” “If she would just stop talking so much, I could have peace.” “He makes me yell because he never says anything. He acts like I’m not there.” This is something I've heard a time or two in counseling. The statements...[ read more ]
Gaining Personal Awareness When attending therapy sessions, one of the first and most important skills you will learn is personal awareness. Personal awareness is the ability to understand who you are, including your values, thoughts, emotions feelings, and spirituality. It is the ability to understand how you react and live in the world. Personal awareness is vital in individual counseling...[ read more ]
When the Voice Keeps Spinning In My Head One of the biggest challenges of anxiety is dealing with the voice that keeps spinning in our heads. It is the fear that something- perceived or real – is going to happen to us that we will be unable to handle. That fear can paralyze us and keep us from moving forward...[ read more ]
One of the biggest challenges in a relationship occurs after the discovery of the affair. The reason that it is so challenging is that the betrayed partner and the involved partner are in two different places concerning the affair. The betrayed partner is usually in a state of grief. That can include shock, denial, and anger concerning the involved partner....[ read more ]
As a black male therapist and a pastor, I have been very disturbed by the events in our country. We are suffering from a COVID pandemic. It has affected us on a physical, economic, mental, and emotional level. The scars of racial division have also reared their ugly heads again. Protests after the death of George Floyd are occurring all...[ read more ]
During this crazy season in our lives, there will be times when many of us feel an unexplainable sadness. There will be times that we do not feel like doing anything and will shut away. Some of us will have difficulty sleeping. We will experience some times where we have unexplainable anger. And we will wonder what is going on?...[ read more ]
One of the biggest issues that is showing up in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic is isolation. Or, the inability to see loved ones. Due to social distancing for health protections, people are unable to visit their loved ones in nursing homes and hospitals. Eventually, these restrictions might expand to assisted livings. Not to mention that people exposed to...[ read more ]
Even happily married couples can hit obstacles along the way. When this happens, couples can try to go it alone and try to work through their issues themselves. Or, they can seek the guidance of a trained and experienced marriage counselor. Some couples feel their problems should be kept private. But, many more are finding the value of seeking help from...[ read more ]